No, my friend. They're not thinking about how you screwed up at your oral presentation or how your shirt was wrinkly that time you went to dinner with your in-laws. In fact, you know what they're thinking about? The time THEY screwed up at their oral presentation.
You see where I'm getting to?
I'm not being a pessimist or trying to make you feel bad or insecure. I'm just saying that if you're scared of doing something because of what people might think JUST DO IT ('sup NIKE). They DON'T care.
We tend to think that we have impact on people more than we actually do. The truth is, people are not paying you much attention because that attention is being paid on themselves.
For instance, see this picture:
Do you find any obvious flaw in it?
It's beautifully composed, the colours are well balanced. All around a great picture. ('Sup @CarlosNuila #FF)
You see where I'm getting to?
I'm not being a pessimist or trying to make you feel bad or insecure. I'm just saying that if you're scared of doing something because of what people might think JUST DO IT ('sup NIKE). They DON'T care.
We tend to think that we have impact on people more than we actually do. The truth is, people are not paying you much attention because that attention is being paid on themselves.
For instance, see this picture:
Do you find any obvious flaw in it?
It's beautifully composed, the colours are well balanced. All around a great picture. ('Sup @CarlosNuila #FF)
Well, to you maybe!
Now let me tell you what I see:
-Big dark circles around my eyes
-My eyebrows look weird
-But most of all, that little spot on my upper lip that isn't well covered by the lipstick! (Yeah, look closely)
I almost didn't put this picture up because I thought these flaws were as obvious to anyone as they were to me. But you wouldn't see any of that unless I would've told you before hand. In fact, you probably didn't pay much attention to this picture... Because you're not in it!
Can you remember all the times that someone did something to make a fool out of themselves? All the times someone posted an embarrassing picture on *Insert social network of choice*?
Do you actually think less of your friends for stuff like that? No Right! You don't care!
Now, take that feeling of disinterest and project it onto other people who you feel may be scrutinising you. Yeah, Let that sink in for a while...
THEY DON'T CARE... So I dyed my hair purple :)
Now let me tell you what I see:
-Big dark circles around my eyes
-My eyebrows look weird
-But most of all, that little spot on my upper lip that isn't well covered by the lipstick! (Yeah, look closely)
I almost didn't put this picture up because I thought these flaws were as obvious to anyone as they were to me. But you wouldn't see any of that unless I would've told you before hand. In fact, you probably didn't pay much attention to this picture... Because you're not in it!
Can you remember all the times that someone did something to make a fool out of themselves? All the times someone posted an embarrassing picture on *Insert social network of choice*?
Do you actually think less of your friends for stuff like that? No Right! You don't care!
Now, take that feeling of disinterest and project it onto other people who you feel may be scrutinising you. Yeah, Let that sink in for a while...
THEY DON'T CARE... So I dyed my hair purple :)
Bottom line: Do what makes you happy and stop caring so much about what others might think.
PS: I do have lots of opinions on that last picture, but you're not going to remember it anyways :). But if you're feeling adventurous, find the flaws in the picture and comment below.
Photography: Carlos Nuila
PS: I do have lots of opinions on that last picture, but you're not going to remember it anyways :). But if you're feeling adventurous, find the flaws in the picture and comment below.
Photography: Carlos Nuila